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The rising rain drops… are romantic. Definitely they are.
They flow. They don’t stop.
That reflects the passage of time.
And recently, I can’t help but accept the fact that I am falling into this trap. You are born, you have huge fun in your initial 10 years, funny part? You don’t realize it.
You are an egoist and you think that the world thinks just like you do.
There are no different thoughts, As per Piaget’s cognitive development theory, it’s just what the baby thinks. Considering you call a kid who’s age is less than 10 years - a baby. The child thinks and feels that everyone else thinks just like he does. And guess what, no one ever tries a damn to make you learn some really important things like listening, empathy, etc.
Because bruh, people in the fact that their children would grow by meeting the tough times of life. After all, they all learnt hard things this way. Why should their children be any different…
You try to host an event, you face rejections and then, your face goes down.
You post things in a public group because you think everyone is gonna take it casually and yet all you get is backlash.
You think asking a doubt innocently but you don’t realize that the other smart kids are just gonna say ‘dude! you are so dumb.’.
The thing is you are affected by life at all its instants. And for all those people who would freely say ‘If life doesn’t get better, just simply hang on and live.’, trust me, life is a suffering.
And this suffering can only escaped by two ways:
Death,
Attaining Inner Peace.
I have been thinking about Inner Peace and recently things are actually bothering me a little. Is inner peace truly possible? Definitely. I have experienced it.
But that wasn’t the actual main question.
The main question is : IS SUSTAINED INNER PEACE POSSIBLE FOR LIFE?
I was struggling with that question for a long time. And I have finally arrived at the conclusion.
The true path is MEDITATION. And the truer path is to turn meditative.
Meditation bring peace but what about that time when you are not meditating. You are haunted by your own emotions of ego, jealousy, dislike towards someone, etc. One may say that these are essential things for all mortals. But mastering one’s emotion never meant having full control over one’s emotion.
It always meant having a complete SYNC between what you are feeling and what you are thinking. There’s a full open conversation between your Thinking Brain and Feeling Brain. And even for particular moments of time, you are able to take the reins of what you are feeling and thinking by conscious thought.
In meditation, … the actual meditation pushes you into the world of unknown, the outside world fades into the fading horizon and all you can experience is a blankness, a peace, a satisfied breathing and now, you know, what’s true peace stands for.
How to meditate? I’ve been meditating for over 2 years… It’s the first thing I do in the morning. I spend my first 15-20 minutes all alone with my true thoughts…
So, in these times, I tried a lot of things from Mantra Meditation to Open-Awareness and what I use is a custom combination of Vipasana and Open-Awareness Meditation. But please, don’t go over the technical terms… I’ll go over the simple generalized steps below:
Sit in a room where no one would disturb you. Just like the book The Autobiography of a Yogi, it was said that you don’t need a cave in the Himalaya to find God, you need find a place where you can unveil your true journey all alone.
Next step, close your eyes and feel your true thoughts. Meditation to True meditation is a process of days and sometimes even weeks. What you first need to do is to clear out your minds. You need to hear the chattering inside your own head.
Understanding the Mechanism: Imagine yourself to be on a road. You are standing in a black and white shirt and jeans and you are watching over the road. Cars pass by. One red car. One fast yellow car. Just going and seeing…
You are the observer. And meditation is like watching your emotions and feelings pass by. Observing it. Accepting it. Gaining control over your intents.
What you do in real life: You sit down and close your eyes and let your unselective thinking go over your mind. And just listen to your own thoughts in your mind. Whatever comes… just OBSERVE AND LET GO. By this, you are taking control of your thoughts from your mind.
Because you are NOT YOUR MIND. Nor are you this body. Your body is an accumulation of the food you ate, the memory you grew and the karma you are holding.
Last step, Do the step 4 for some days, a time would come (probably in the 6th-7th day) when you won’t be listening to your own mind, you won’t be thinking… you would be hearing the silence and the outside noises fading.
That’s when you would be starting off with your first steps. And in the end, you would be slowly mastering your emotions and thoughts because there is no differences between what you think and what you are feeling.
To turn meditative, is to never leave your place of meditation.
But that’s not physically possible. You are doing it mentally. Every time you are trying to make a decision/saying/reaction, stop and rethink it. Slowly, this would be a habit.
You will feel that others are saying that you are getting mature and wise. But trust me, what you are internally becoming is PEACEFUL.
Slowly, this little habit would make you think and make you even more conscious about this world which you abide.
There’s one last key ingredient missing :)
It’s ACCEPTANCE.
Acceptance - is a superpower. If the person you love dies the next day, what would you do? Well, no matter how much or what you do… the only thing which you can do is to accept her/his passing and move on.
If Radha were to pass away the next day, I wouldn’t waste a single moment grieving over what has happened. Moreover, Radha would also never want me to waste my time on something like this…
Wishing that death would bring back people from its dark valleys.
Acceptance is the key to your inner peace and there are going to be moments when you feel that the outside world is over-burdening you with its shits.
There are gonna be moments of sadness.
There are gonna be moments of shame.
There are gonna be moments of loneliness.
But what you all need to know (I struggled with realizing this myself) is It’s fine to be sad or feel bad or feel depressed about things. And the more important thing to know is ALL TH ARE TEMPORARY.
With time, things settle down. And your little moments of sadness wouldn’t matter to yourself, after an year.
And yes, same goes for happiness.
Happiness is not Peace. Happiness is a by-product of peace. You are able to be happy because you have peace on the inside. Without peace, it’s just a fake smile which only stings you the most.
For the past 6 months, I would say that I have been trying to experience this sustained inner peace… And I’ve faced my crucibles. And there are bigger crucibles to come but honestly, I don’t think that anything can break me now. Because when you have attained this state of Sustained Inner Peace (SIP), you are gonna be ANTI-FRAGILE slowly and steadily.
Nothing can break you in this life. And even if your body is gone or even if you are standing on the verge of your own death… you won’t panic, you won’t be scared. You would accept your circumstances and make changes if there are opportunities and be at peace…
In life and even after death.
Very nice writing. Keep it up. You match 90% with me in this topic. Excellent explanation. 😊💝👍🏿