Relationship isn't a burden if she motivates you to be a better person every single day
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Relationship isn't a burden if she motivates you to be a better person every single day
Yeah, it’s very difficult to date in high school.
And it’s even harder because you know you are gonna go away after your school years come to an end.
December 2023…
I was following my Youtube gurus and their advice & experiences of a lot of people tell me that getting into a relationship is just freaking hard if you are thinking of doing long-distance. And yes, it’s also very hard if you are thinking of going abroad.
I really thought that breaking up would free both of us from our bindings. Because I knew that NEET was very important to her. And I didn’t want to make her defocus and also, didn’t want to be the reason for screwing up her concentration and attention for that exam.
It had been just 3 months+ in this relationship which felt amazing.
Just purely amazing.
I pondered for a long time. I knew that I loved this one person with everything I had. I finally came to the conclusion that yup… I don’t want to lose this person, not even for a little bit. And yup… I’m gonna guide her in her studies alongside being the greatest supporter she ever had.
March 2024…
We had that talk recently.
The hard talk…
“Let’s break up and focus on our studies.
Let’s get back to friends and focus on getting a good college.”
Obviously, that’s important. I get it. She was talking about how this would help her get very focused and how this would eventually be worth the trouble.
The entire goddamn mindset that yup, if you close yourself off the entire world, watch no movies, and just purely study for 16 out of 24 hours… (you need to have 7 hours of sleep and 1 hour to eat & go to the toilet in total), you will rank as the topper.
This is called the paradox of progress.
Funny how I never forgot the term. Yup, I totally agree that the grind kills you but it only kills you to live the thing you always wanted to be.
But honestly, you are not a robot. And it’s only a while after your biological needs take over. I’m not talking about fapping or having sex.
I’m talking about the basic things for seeing another human being, playing football/cricket, talking to other people/family, etc.
We are social beings and cutting ourselves from social ties is something most people regret in the future.
She was talking about how this brother of her, who has gone into ghost mode.
She was talking about how our mutual friend broke up with his beloved girlfriend (if you don’t take care of her, she is not beloved) to complete his dream of NEET AIIMS Delhi. Both of us though knew that he was a total introvert, and idiot and played games at 12 30 AM :) 🎮
She was sharing about how her mind is provoking her to get out of this relationship and focus on NEET. (For me: break apart whatever we had and focus on NEET)
I read that text at around 6:40 am in the morning. It was a Saturday, the day after tomorrow I would be having my Chemistry exams. I couldn’t focus on my Monk Mode. Not before we sorted this out.
The worst thing that anyone could ever do is…
To jump to conclusions in a relationship.
Your man has a habit of keeping work separate from personal life, so he gets out with the phone when his boss calls upon you and you think that he is cheating on you. You make claims and you fuck up your love life without even realizing it.
She bluntly said, I want a break from this relationship for one year.
… My mind went back. Back to the moment when my eyes first met this woman…
I read her long text again. She had texted me at 2 am.
I just couldn’t get out of my head what was happening… I was like, “Wait, What?!”
We chatted...
I wrote, ‘If you want to take a break from this relationship… I will support you, no matter what, babe. Don’t worry, I’ll be fine. I will keep on supporting you.”
I realized that I lied. Not on the ‘support you’ part.
But rather on the ‘I’ll be fine.’ part.
We chatted for an entire hour, if not long.
I know that this was fucked up.
But communication is the only medicine you ever have in your long-distance relationship.
Good news!
Things came back to normal, in the end.
That’s obvious… when you both love each other like crazyyyyyy!!!
In that convo… she told me how these NEET TOPPERS were saying that getting in a relationship is just a liability and it are just a burden.
I said… how many of these toppers had a relationship with someone that motivated them to be better?
She was getting my point.
I had already gone through the 6 different arguments inside my own head during December 2023…
But honestly… I realized that I can never get back to just being friends… Not with her.
She’s just… … … I don’t know what to say… … …
I think she’s just too close to my heart now.
I can’t turn a blind eye to her in any case.
Because she has become my priority.
I have seen a lot of different people. A lot of different girls. A lot of different women.
I really don’t think that a girl like her… with that sense of maturity, care, & unbreakable mindset exists in the world. The first time, my eyes met hers… I was at awe at first sight.
No… it wasn’t her body. It was her smile.
And after talking and opening up so much with this person… I don’t think there’s a match for her inner and physical beauty. It was amazing to see that this type of person really existed in this world. Immense self-control… Goddess-like beauty… And an indomitable mindset…
Behind her face, I could see that this person had suffered.
She has seen how cruel the world can get.
She hides and she has been hiding very well.
But I don’t want to make her suffer anymore.
And that’s what actually made me stay in the relationship while I was pondering on what we had in DECEMBER 2023.
I want to be rich. I want to be financially free.
In order to provide the life, my mom and my woman deserve.
They have already suffered too much and can’t let them anymore once I get the reins of my life in my hands.
And hence, getting into a relationship wasn’t a bad decision.
As long as it motivates you to be a better person and gives you the mental peace and mental strength to achieve heights you never thought actually existed.
And she motivates me to see a better side of this flawed world and myself every day.
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