The Phases of a Lovey-Dovey High School RELATIONSHIP...
I didn't tell you all my secrets just to pull my heart out.
I’m sorry if I sound pessimistic with the subheading…
I’m just waiting for an opportunity when someone would ask me, ‘Hey you have a gf?’
And I want to reply.
”NO.
I have a wife.
We are not just married yet.”
Funny how life passes.
Life is too short sometimes.
But that’s good I think!
We have something to do before we die.
And one day, suddenly some girl/guy walks into your life… And suddenly the entire scenery changes. The real scenery appears some time later on (read some more).
It’s almost a year. And here’s my experience on high school LDR love :)
Phase 1: The Honeymoon Phase
In this phase, you think you were so meant for each other :)
It’s the butterfly in the stomach feeling.
You lose yourself in this ‘love’.
You crave and love to share your long texts.
And guess what, this initial mental & emotional thrust really gets life going.
Perhaps that’s why so many dumb people break off stable relationships just to feel this honeymoon phase again and again.
It’s like they lose the spark and so… they find another one.
That’s bullshit.
Here’s my advice on the Honeymoon Phase
Nothing is permanent. So enjoy things to the fullest.
But yes, be ready to get it off.
And please don’t run away if it’s a stable relationship.
Learn to lower your standards expectations.
I just remember it so clearly…
It was just one long text to another. I would wake up to see my Radha’s long texts!!!
There’s so much ignited emotion in the start!
But the next phases are equally rewarding if we do it right!
Phase 2: The Getting OK Phase
In this phase… you are finally 4 months into the relationship and guess what…
You finally getting settled with this person you love.
If the love isn’t damn strong… you will say something shit while texting long in Phase 1 itself and then, things break off.
Throughout this phase… Getting things like privacy, respect, and the hierarchy of importance rights is really important.
You want to experiment about what’s the boundary of the other person and at the same time, how much you are going to let them in.
If you are trying to make this your last relationship, then… let her in.
I think my wifey knows all about my secrets, which girls were my friends in the past, what are ‘my things’ like I’m a baby sometimes & I really love ice cream (😈 ifykyk), etc.
In this phase… you are going to have quite a bit of fights…
Not fights as in physical fights… But rather emotional and personal attacks. Your ego gets hurt. And a lot of things… It’s a pure exploit. But it’s a phase of life.
The worst thing in our high-school love relationship was the fact that she’s so physically away :(
I miss her like crazy sometimes… We can’t even meet when we want.
It’s a luck-by-chance event, which we both love.
But… yes, if you are not in LDR, this phase is much easier.
Because most fights in a relationship happen due to MISCOMMUNICATION.
It’s just a tone mishap.
You don’t get the tone she was talking to you with.
And then, you think of something else.
She thinks something else after that.
And guess what, it’s a hurtful game.
Even 99% of our arguments happen due to this thing…
I can’t get her tone from her texts.
Sometimes she gets hurt too…
I just feel shitty at that time.
Phase 3: The ACCEPTANCE
I’m glad that it’s been almost one year…
And I think me and my Radha have accepted all shitty things about ourselves!
Like sometimes she has terrible mood swings, is super into feminism, is egoistic (a little!!!), hates fuchka (I left fuchka for her), etc. But I think I find the good parts out of all the shitty ones.
She’s one hell of a strong mature woman. Just brave. Super hardworking. Super StreetSmart! Family person. :) and a MILLION THINGS MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m a little emotional when it comes to love…
Sometimes I get offended when I feel like she treats me like just some other boy.
I act immature… a little :)
(I’m her baby! Babies are immature!)
But at the same time, I’m mommy’s sweet boy :)
Anyways, the main thing during this phase is that… you start to see the people as who they truly are. If you are in doubt about the characters your loved one has, then probably it’s too late to doubt their character.
It happens that sometimes you don’t know who likes infidelity and who has weird kinks… But the thing is… YOU HAVE TO ASK THEM.
And you shouldn’t be afraid to ask them these questions.
Because this is something that only Loyal Partners Can Ask each other.
And after that… there are no other phases…
It’s a journey of self mutual-discovery. You slowly discover each other with each passing day. If you are a match… well, things are super amazing.
It’s such an amazing feeling to make her better. To do things for her.
Taking care of her. Making sure that she is ok…
SPOILER: Girlfriend effect & Boyfriend effect is actually REAL!
I was a little rude previously… Before I met her.
Now… I improved a lot. All because of her.
I hated her restrictions at first. It’s not her fault.
But slowly and steadily I became more understanding.
I changed myself to suit her needs. And her wants.
I just wish that we get together soon.
The night is dark. There’s a wind. I wish she was the wind.
Having her by my side… feels like there’s something to look forward in life.
Previously I was nihilistic but now… things have a meaning.
Even if I am not doing things for myself, I would rather do it 100 times for HER.
Just HER.
No One Else.
She’s my moon.
She’s prettier than the moon!
Perhaps, it’s quite a lot of time before we can get under one roof… But only a few times, you will find someone in life, who are… WORTH WAITING FOR.
And once you get these people… you hold onto them.
And never let go.
The shitty thing about Long-Distance Relationship (LDR) is this distance…
I hated this distance.
But you know what…
Distance is sexy :)
That’s a story for some other day.
But now, read this ⬇️